I Need Gay Advice

As we’ve said to people before… the best way to come out is to just tell a few people at a time. Start with people that you know will take it well… probably friends. After you’ve come out to a few friends, move on to close family members. Everyone’s reactions will be different probably. It’s very good that you’re ready to come out so soon. It’ll surely help in the “transition” phase that you’re talking about. Just take things slow.
~Billy 

It’s always going to be weird and somewhat awkward at first. Just pass him and smile the first few times. After a while, add a “hi.” Then eventually just go up to him and talk with him a little bit. Honestly, it’ll probably be awkward depending on his personality. Some people feel a little awkward when approached… others love it. It all depends. But you’ll never know until you take the chance.
~Billy 

It’s more difficult to find other gays when you’re younger. My biggest suggestion is to not worry too much about it… just to be who you are. Eventually someone will come around. Don’t be really worried about finding someone right now. When the time is right, someone will come around. If you want to find out if someone is gay, just hint around it and see how they react… or watch their eyes. Honestly, that’s the biggest way to figure out if someone is gay. When you’re with them, watch their eyes to see who they are watching. Usually people don’t pay too much attention to themselves and they just look around to what they are interested in. If you see his eyes looking up and down at guys as they pass, there’s a good chance he’s gay. Just a few hints. Good luck!
~Billy 

We’re glad to be helpful. We really want this blog to be somewhere where people can go when they feel like they can’t go anywhere else.
~Billy 

Just talk to him. If he hasn’t come to you to talk yet, he probably doesn’t feel comfortable with it. You need to let him know that you’re okay with it and that you accept him. Just tell him that you want to talk with him, sit him down, and have the conversation. He’ll realize that you’re putting in the effort and I’m sure he’ll be appreciative of it.
~Billy 

First of all, accepting that you like men is only something YOU can do. Nobody else can make you comfortable within your own body.

Second of all, if you like men, then you like men. Hiding or repressing these feelings will cause anger, hurt, confusion, resentment, and a host of other emotions that you really don’t want. 

I strongly urge that you sit down with your friends and discuss your feelings. Explain to them why you feel like it “isn’t right for you”. Maybe they can shed some light on the matter. I just want to let you know that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. And if anybody, ANYBODY says otherwise, then they have no idea what they’re talking about.

~Jake

I would tell my partner that my ex messaged me, inviting me to dinner and drinks. Then, I would ask him if he felt comfortable with me doing so. I would hope that this would lead into a discussion, resulting in his trusting me to go out regardless of whether or not I wanted to. Then, I would tell him my intentions in their entirety. 

~Jake

Depending on the relationship that you have with him, you could probably just come out and ask. Chances are, if he’s asking/saying those kinds of things, then he’s most likely not completely straight. If you don’t like the blunt approach, you could always beat around the bush, asking about girlfriends, or boyfriends. When I’m questioning another’s sexuality, I always say something like this, “So do you have a girlfriend?… Or boyfriend? Whichever.” They always laugh, and if they’re gay, they’ll say no boyfriends, if they’re not, they’ll say no girlfriends. Works every time. I hope this helps and good luck!

~Jake

I’m sorry, but I can’t answer that for you. I can tell you that if she’s your best friend, then you must trust her in some capacity. So telling her probably wouldn’t have any negative consequences. You could always tell her to keep it quiet. With that said, if she has any sort of track record of “accidentally” slipping secrets, then I would remain silent and wait for somebody that you really can trust 100%. I hope this helps and good luck!

~Jake

This sounds like quite a predicament. On one hand, you owe it to him and yourself to say something because this is a hard secret to keep in. On the other hand, he could take it completely wrong and things could become awkward between the two of you. I would try to talk about the LGBTQ community around him. See if there’s any way to make him more comfortable with it. The one thing that I don’t advise is keeping the secret in forever. That will just cause problems within you that won’t be good. 

Whatever you decide to do, just know that you are supported. And whatever happens, you’ll make it through. If he’s as good a friend as you say, then I’m sure he’ll understand how you feel. I hope this helps!

~Jake